Frequently Asked Questions
While it might not be accurate to say that everyone wears a mask all the time, most people wear a mask at some points in their lives. Masks protect us from emotional pain, hide our vulnerabilities and help us conform to societal expectations. Who ends up putting on which mask at what point depends on factors like personality, life experiences and the social environment.
As children, we are at our most authentic. But as we grow into our teens, we realise that who we are is often not what society expects us to be. Afraid of being rejected or exposed, we put on a façade that we believe will be accepted by society. While masks do act as coping mechanisms, they conceal our true feelings, prevent genuine connections and lead to severe issues later on in adulthood.
Masks damage everyone. But the tendency of men to put on masks is higher because the men face greater pressure to be strong, successful and to provide for their families. The damage is compounded as most men are unable or unwilling to talk about their problems. This leads to severe mental health issues, including depression and suicide. It is hardly a coincidence than men account for nearly 80% of suicide rates despite making up just 50% of the population.
Absolutely. Most people think that mid-life crisis occurs because they reach a particular age. In reality, it stems from a build-up of unprocessed emotions dating back to childhood. These suppressed feelings are concealed beneath various masks, which, by mid-life, lose their effectiveness leading to a sudden emptiness. Men tend to compensate for this void with unhealthy behavioural patterns such as alcohol, sex, gambling, etc. But the core problem remains unresolved and these pattern persists, potentially until death. The only real solution is breaking free from all masks. MPower Coaching helps men shed their masks and attain authenticity which is essential to live a genuine happy life.
Therapy focusses more on the past. It tends to show you how your problems came about. With coaching the emphasis is on the present and the future. It helps you face your problems, find solutions and equip yourself with tools that will help you navigate similar challenges should they arise in the future.
Life coaching is definitely not a fad. Yes, it has become popular in recent years. But that’s because more people have become more aware of the problems they face and are willing to seek expert guidance to find solutions that they cannot find themselves. Most men are open to seek the help of a gym trainer to build muscle or lose weight. Seeking the guidance of an expert to tackle the issues that rob us of happiness and meaning in life is so much more crucial.
The benefits of authentic living are multifold. You will see a marked improvement in your physical health, along with a surge in energy levels. You will discover your life’s purpose and get the drive to achieve your goals. You will become more self-aware which leads to harmonious relationships. Even your financial stability and wealth will see a change for the better. As you live your life to the fullest, you also will be more responsible towards others.